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  • Jan. 8th, 2010 at 1:49 PM

I went to have my hair trimmed and styled today. It's been a while since I did this, as I have a history of serious Bad Haircut Trauma(*), and I don't tend to trust others with scissors around my locks. In recent years I've just trimmed the split ends myself over the sink.

But it's been looking scraggly lately, as the gray hair comes in a different texture, so I finally decided to Do Something with it.

On a neighbor's recommendation I went to visit Venus at Ciana's Salon in Los Altos. I was relieved to find that she's a curly girl too, so she *understands* how it is to try and simultaneously tame and enliven those mind-of-their-own sproings.

She follows directions well - just enough of a trim to get rid of the split ends and even out the lengths! - and then I asked her if she could show me some styling tips. So she showed me how to get added lift and body with a diffuser (wow!). She also taught me how to concoct a simple updo style that doesn't make me look all severe with my high forehead, which I have a prayer of maybe being able to replicate with some bobby pins at home.

She showed me a mirror to look at the back of my hair and I realized that I am going to need to do something about the gray. I have known that I've had gray hair coming in for a while, and had long been firm on the notion that when the gray came in I'd gracefully let it happen - I think I'll actually look dazzling in silver, with my blue eyes, given that I had light hair as a child.

But the aerial view made me realize that 'gracefully' is not the word for how the gray is coming in - 'unevenly' is more the way of it. Maybe someday when my hair is more fully gray I'll play to the silvery notes - but right now it simply looks like a messy cobweb atop the lower chestnut, and that won't do. Venus said that instead of dyeing all of my hair, what she'll try first is to put in some highlights that are the same color as my natural coppery ones, to mask the gray without dousing it altogether. So we've got an appointment to do that in February.

She sent me home with my purchase of some of the salon hair goops that she used, as well as a package of the Aveda Comforting Tea that they serve to their guests... it has lovely licorice undertones.

(*) The Bad Haircut Trauma began at age 8, when my grandmother made a suggestion to my mother that I'd look cute in short hair. I didn't, and hadn't known that a short haircut was what I was getting until it was done. None of us could make it behave, and it grew back in weirdly, and pretty much changed my physical self-image radically in negative directions along with the onset of glasses that same year. Took quite a number of years for me to view my appearance positively again.

Jan. 8th, 2010

  • 9:31 AM
Best lines on my access lists today:

Planning to knit a Shakespeare's Sonnets Scarf. Because people are doing binary scarfs, and I think iambic pentameter deserves some love.

Random

  • Jan. 8th, 2010 at 8:38 AM
I'm going to take a snowboarding lesson tomorrow - woohoo! I have high hopes that this will solve all of my knee problems... or at the very least, make it so that I can enjoy sliding down slopes with less pain. If I find it's fun, and hurts less than skiing, I plan on converting. If either of those things turns out untrue, I'll try skiing with my knee brace. But hopefully snowboarding will be the solution I'm seeking!

The guys I work with are all rather child-like (in a fun way). For example, we have a laser pointer floating around the team room. Whenever somebody finds it, they start playing with it to the point of distraction. They stare at it on the ceiling, point it at screens, each other, the floor.....

We were preparing a demo on wednesday, and one of them picked up the pointer. "We can show them our laser pointer," he suggested cheerfully, as he made it dance around his keyboard.

"Yeah sure," I said. "We'll show them that we're all catlike. And I don't mean in terms of reflexes, I mean in terms of attention span."

Jan. 7th, 2010

  • 9:33 PM
Me, after going into the kitchen to kiss [info]someotherguy on the shoulder: "Hi, cute boyfriend."

Him: "Hiya. Was I cute before I was washing the dishes?"

Me: "Sure. I didn't actually process that you were washing the dishes before I came in to say 'hi cute boyfriend'."

Him, laughing: "You came in to say hi to me and didn't know I was washing dishes? Did you think I'd developed some strange habit of standing near the sink with the water running?"

Me, laughing: "No, silly. I wasn't paying attention! It's not always about you!"

Him, laughing harder (and by the end of this exchange we were both laughing uproariously, to [info]sogwife's bafflement): "It's not about me when you come say how cute I am?!?"

Me: "Well, up until I came to say how cute you were, I was paying attention to Vito, not you. It was VITO's turn to get my affection!"

Him: "Oh, I see!" *pause* "And I almost made the classic boy error of saying 'and you didn't CONSULT me about giving Vito your affection?' but now I know the error of my ways and I know that that, as well, is not about me."

Me: "Exactly!!"

Jan. 7th, 2010

  • 10:14 AM
Felt it at SF Civic Center, on the 18th floor.

Jan. 7th, 2010

  • 7:39 AM
Yesterday, I got a blood-test result I didn't like. Today, my endocrinologist tells me the change is not necessarily significant, given the margin of error, and we'll re-test in a month (and she wants to see me about the troubling symptoms). So I feel better today about the whole thing, but still: fuck cancer.

Jan. 7th, 2010

  • 9:57 AM
phrase of the day: "those numbers are exquisitely not-bad."

lunch with [info]jadia is a great goodness. so is a sandwich with fresh mozarella, tomato, basil, herb mayo and bacon.

don't go drinking at soundbites. the deserted peace and quiet is not worth the miserable liquor selection and being kicked out before 10pm. on the other hand, the contrast when one then stumbles to gargoyles and gets a drink by the good bartender is quite delicious.

i just used a 18" adjustable wrench to remove a 5/8" bolt. i'm a fan of wretched excess, but that's just ridiculous.

our flight to chicago this evening was randomly cancelled, and apparently we've been rebooked on one at 6am tomorrow. nevermind the hotel room we'd paid for for tonight, or how much that will trash our day tomorrow with the lack of sleep. wtf, united?

(i sincerely hope to return from chicago with all my bits, none of them frozen off. whose bright idea was it to go to chicago in january?)

your moment of geeky zen.

Answer to Webzombi

  • Jan. 6th, 2010 at 7:35 PM
Some of your work looks a bit prosaic--how do you deal with the critics?
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You see, I am not artistically inclined, however, if I were, criticism of my work would seemingly be difficult for me to deal with--I have such a need to please.



Well, one answer is "I should be so lucky as to have critics." I mean, in a professional sense, my work has not attracted enough attention to warrant reviews in the sort of publications that review art stuff.

But I do get feedback on my work occasionally from potential customers, etc. And when I take photographic workshops, I'll sometimes take them from people who can give qualified feedback on my work--but those folks will be coming from a nature photography POV, it's a fairly prosaic artform in general.

From theoretically potential customers (or, more properly, people I meet in settings in which I might expect the person might be a potential customer, e.g., at an art show, the very folks who take the time to come up and criticize the images, with very limited exceptions, are being argumentative for the enjoyment of being argumentative. It took me a little time to recognize that their anger issues weren't my problem and to figure out how to derail them.

This is different than the folks who will come up and engage me about what I'm trying to do with a piece or a set of pieces, where the dicussion tends to be friendly and not lead with rude. But there's usually some positive there, after all, most people walk by things that don't move them--they don't engage with it.

The photo workshops--I'll take workshops from folks like the late Galen Rowell, Jack Dykinga, Frans Lanting. (People who do work similar to mine that I admire and who have Made It.) Jack's not as critical as Frans, Frans as Galen was, but all three of them managed to keep the tone constructive. It took practice to deal with photographic criticism without getting defensive (mostly).


Really, I'm pretty fortunate, though. In the end, I totally glow when someone "gets" one of my pieces and enjoys it. Someone like Mike Johnson at TOP calls attention to Snowy Pinnacles at Dusk and I'm all aglow. But 99% of the reason I do the photography isn't for those strokes (they're nice), most of the reason I do it is because in the end, I end up making a lot of images that I really am proud of. Oh, not all the 350+ images on my web site fill me with equal glee, I need to take a few more culls through the site, but I do photography because it makes me happy and sane and fulfilled to do it, and it makes me happy to see the few results i'm truly proud of.

Not all of them have to rise to quite that level. Some that aren't my absolute best are pieces that are treasured by people for one reason or another. That's okay. It makes someone happy, and moreover, it's part of the process of artmaking.

Finally, we get to my worst critic. Me.

Oh, I'll certainly defend some "faults" one or two self-appointed internet gurus have made of my work at some point in the past or another, because, well, I'm right and they were wrong. :p It's not entirely fair to say that I'm the harshest critic. But in some ways, I'm the harshest critic that matters. There isn't a single piece of work (well, maybe one) that I didn't wish could have been a little different in some respect. Get some beer into me and I can regale you with long stories about what's not perfect about a particular image in mine. Might not even take beer. :)

That too is part of the process. Being constantly critical of one's own work is part of whatever it is that makes me need to keep making it. It's a good thing, it just took me a few years to learn to step back and to see that that self-criticism is an essential part of the process. How do I cope with it? Practice.

It helps to reread this quote, amoung others, from Bayles and Orland's "Art & Fear" on a regular basis.

”The function of the overwhelming majority of your artwork is simply to teach you how to make the small fraction of your artwork that soars.”

Those guys understand.

Jan. 6th, 2010

  • 7:26 PM
i am in need of a notary. is there anyone one my fl who lives in the south bay and happens to be a notary?

Jan. 6th, 2010

  • 6:59 PM
"What's the spinach in here mixed with?"

"Tofu."

"Oh."

"And garlic and stuff."

"Yeah."

"Is it yucky?"

"Oh, no, it's just that I was going along for a few minutes there and it was just like I was eating, I don't know, real food or something."

"*laugh* I can quote you on that, right?"

"Sure, but only out of context."

"Ah, so no one finds out you actually liked tofu?"

"Yes, exactly."